Men often ask me where they can meet trans women. The honest answer is that most of us are on the same apps and in the same places as everyone else. What makes the difference is how you approach us.
Dating apps
Most trans women I know meet men online. Hinge and Tinder let us say we are trans on our profiles. Apps made for LGBTQ+ people, like Taimi, have more of us. Feeld, which started in London, is popular with open-minded singles and couples. I wrote a full list in my post about dating apps in the UK.
LGBTQ+ bars and nights out
In London, many LGBTQ+ bars are in Soho and Vauxhall, and Pride in London fills the city every summer. Go to enjoy the night. A trans woman can tell straight away when a man walked in only to find one of us, and it rarely goes well.
Community groups and charities
Support groups are for trans people themselves, so please don't go there looking for a date. If you care about the cause, volunteering for an LGBTQ+ charity is a good way to meet people, as long as dating isn't the reason you signed up.
How to approach her
Talk to her the way you would talk to any woman you like. Never tell her she looks "real". Compliment something she chose, like her dress or her taste in music. Questions about surgery can wait until much later, and many of us would rather never answer them. I wrote more about this in my post for first-timers.
Be honest about what you want. If you are looking for something discreet, say so early. Many trans women are tired of men who only want to meet in secret, and others are happy with discretion as long as it is clear from the start.
Or book a companion
If you would rather skip the apps, I'm a trans companion in London. I'm good company at dinner, at the theatre, at a party or on a trip away. Message me and tell me what you have in mind.
Brazilian trans woman living in London. I write about dating, respect and real experiences.